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Rita  ·  Iraq

I Wanted to Be in Charge of My Destiny

In America, people follow their dreams

Writer by Nicole Taylor
Photographer by Kristi Burton
Rita 2018

In 1999 I lived in Iraq and I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in chemistry.

I never thought I would leave Iraq. My dream was to get married, have kids, work, be with my siblings. Every Thursday and Friday I wanted to bring my kids to my dad’s and have them grow up with their cousins. We used to have these big reunions at his house. Sometimes there would be 30 people having lunch, on the floor.

I love exploring the world, I love traveling. But I always wanted to go back home.

I wanted to be part of the change in my country. But I worked for the Americans, and that was dangerous. Snipers targeted our work. Sometimes I would stay on the American base for a month at a time because it was too dangerous to go home. But I said, “It’s okay. It will change. It will change. It will change.”

I finally applied for an SIV (Special Immigrant Visa, granted to people who aided US forces) and after a year and a half I was approved. We came to Utah when I was ready to have my second child. It was difficult. I had a degree and experience. I applied for tons of jobs but I couldn’t find one for a long time.

Finally I found a job and shortly afterwards I applied for the MBA program at the University of Utah. It was a new beginning for me.

It’s been a great experience even though I feel like the dumbest child in the class. I have to learn all this big language but I am grateful to be here, to pursue my dream of getting a master’s degree. There are exceptional professors and other people who are trying to help people find jobs and build their resumes.

I’m working right now, but I wanted to start my own business. So, we created a business. I wanted to be in charge of my destiny. It’s still in the beginning. I’m just finishing the papers but it’s exciting for me to have my own business, my own life.

I will hopefully be a citizen next year. That will be the greatest honor: to be American. To be part of this great country. In America, people follow their dreams. They can be as big as they want to make them. I am sure that I will have my own life, my children will be proud to be part of it and have America be part of who they are.

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What would you do if you had to leave everything behind?

By the end of 2024, more than 123.2 million people worldwide had been forcibly displaced from their homes due to war, persecution, or human rights abuses.

An increase of 7.2 million over 2023, that’s more than 19,619 people every day — roughly one person every 4.4 seconds.

They arrive in refugee camps and other countries, like the US, seeking the one thing they’ve lost: safety.

Fleeing political imprisonment, ethnic violence, religious persecution, gang threats, or war crimes, they come with what little they managed to carry:

Legal papers – if they’re lucky.

A single backpack.

Sometimes a child’s hand in theirs.

They also carry the weight of what they left behind: fractured families, homes they’ll never return to, professions they loved, friends and relatives they may never see again.

They carry loss most of us can’t imagine – but also the truth of what they’ve endured.

At TSOS, we believe stories are a form of justice. When someone shares their experience of forced displacement, they reclaim their voice. And when we amplify that voice – through film, photography, writing, and advocacy – the world listens. Hearts soften. Communities open. Policy begins to shift.

That shift matters. Because when neighbors understand instead of fear…

when lawmakers see people, not politics…

when a teacher knows what her student has survived…

Rebuilding life from the ashes becomes possible.

We’re fighting an uphill battle. In today’s political climate, refugee stories are often twisted or ignored. They’re reduced to statistics, portrayed as national threats, or used to score political points.

The truth – the human, nuanced truth – gets lost, and when it does, we lose compassion.

We are here to share their truth anyway.

At TSOS, we don’t answer to headlines or algorithms. We are guided by a simple conviction: every person deserves to be seen, heard, and welcomed.

Our work is powered by the people we meet — refugees and asylum seekers rebuilding after loss, allies offering sanctuary, and communities daring to extend belonging.

Your support helps us share their stories — and ensure they’re heard where they matter most.

“What ultimately persuaded the judge wasn’t a legal argument. It was her story.”

— Kristen Smith Dayley, Executive Director, TSOS

Will you help us keep telling the truth?

No donation is too small — and it only takes a minute of your time.

Why give monthly?

We value every gift, but recurring contributions allow us to plan ahead and invest more deeply in:

  • New refugee storytelling and advocacy projects
  • Resources to train and equip forcibly displaced people to share their own stories
  • Public education that challenges fear with empathy
  • Local efforts that help communities welcome and integrate newcomers

As our thank-you, monthly supporters receive fewer fundraising messages — and more stories of the impact they’re making possible.

You don’t have to be displaced to stand with those who are.

Can you give today — and help carry these stories forward?

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